Liberation stage

There’s all these different stages of grief, you know DABDA; Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. Well apparently there’s also a Liberation stage as well. Where’s that stage in the DSM-5? I didn’t even know this was something people referred to, but as I was explaining my recent summer activities to a fellow wid, she responded very matter of fact of, “yup, you’re in the liberation stage. I was there for two and a half years. Enjoy.”

What the hell?

The way this liberation stage was described to me was, you know when people go through a midlife crisis, and have the overwhelming feeling that the “grass is greener on the other side.” That is what I’m going through. I am thinking about buying a jacked up bike, so maybe that’s my irrational purchase that’s irising in quickly.

When I think of liberation, I think of Forest Gump, and how Jenn-ay was always doing things on impulse and being slightly reckless. I don’t know what I’m freeing myself from, but I do think I’m starting to grasp the world just a little bit more, rather than watch it strain through my fingers like a colander. With this new information about the liberation stage, I’ve decided to pitch it as a story, and it was accepted. So now I’m working on a little ditty about it. There’s one thing specifically that sticks out in my mind as the perfect example. Unfortunately it’s something that I will not be posting on here any time soon. I’ve allowed a massive window into my widow life but somethings have to be kept away from a public blog. Perhaps if it comes out well, I’ll post it. One thing I’ve learned is, with being widowed so young you quickly realize you’re in a different place in your life than most people are. There’s just some messes that are worth my time, and others that should be swept under the rug and revisited at a later date.

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About J.

Fitness professional, fitness & nutrition writer, widowed at 28. Writing about getting through grief through self-care, physical activity, and the ​constant feeling of being uncomfortable.
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4 Responses to Liberation stage

  1. notabowlofcherries says:

    Lol good to know what it is now. I experienced same thing 🙂

  2. samdyljor says:

    Wondering what the difference is between acceptance and liberation. Is one knowing and accepting that we are widows and the other going forward with this new stage of our life and living and loving every minute of it? MWAH xxx

    • J. says:

      I think there’s the vagueness with acceptance of you acknowledge a loved ones death and are able to continue forward. I don’t think liberation is technically a form of acceptance. Perhaps it comes right before acceptance?

      The way I interpreted it is, without my husband I can now do XYZ, however if he was around I couldn’t do XYZ so I might as well embrace what is available in his absence. It can appear reckless at times.

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