Cry Day

Ever since George’s birthday I’ve been in an emotional rut. I usually experience highs and lows, but lately I’ve been experience lows and lowers. This canopy of sadness that lurks behind me hasn’t been so prominent since the immediate months after George died. Arguably, I’m entering 8 months out next Saturday and this is still considered the raw and early stages of grief, but I truly have felt like I’ve been in a good place. But all of a sudden I’m on the cusp of crying constantly.

On Wednesday (yesterday), my friends and I declared it a cry day and we watched shows and movies to inspire a well needed cry. I accepted cry day and wanted it. The problem came when I realized I am so uncomfortable crying in front of people. It’s been a problem of mine since I was young. We watched the tribute episode of Glee, then the final episode of Dawson’s Creek where Joey finally decides on Pacey or Dawson, and then we followed up with a trip to the movies to watch A Fault in our Stars, and to round the days events we finished with Hachi: A Dog’s Tale. I lost my mind during Hachi. It’s such a sweet and sad movie. If you want a good cry, watch it. I think I was the winner of cry day because I cried while watching everything. Hell, I was already crying before they got there. But having the comradery around me did feel good. I wish cry day did what it needed to do but it didn’t.

Today I got my evaluation at work, and admittedly it didn’t make me feel better or worse. I went into it feeling blah and I left feeling blah. Afterwards I went and did an outdoor workout, which usually does the trick of making me feel better, but it didn’t. I was numb. Even when I went to SoulCycle tonight, I was numb and that ALWAYS makes me feel better. But something is going on with me and I’m not sure what it is. This is one of those times if someone tells me how strong I am, I will break in two. I feel so weak and have this uncertainty of what meandering emotions will bubble to the surface. And the only hypotheses I have  on what’s going on is this must be the prequel to my period or I’m entering a new stage of grief. With all my might, I hope it’s the former.

Feeling a bit off balance

Feeling a bit off balance

About J.

Fitness professional, fitness & nutrition writer, widowed at 28. Writing about getting through grief through self-care, physical activity, and the ​constant feeling of being uncomfortable.
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5 Responses to Cry Day

  1. I too am experiencing the same thing. Usually I’m just fine and then out of no where I’m balling over the littlest thing. I guess we take it as it comes, right?

  2. This is totally where I am as well! I always think that because a certain number of months have gone by, I would start really getting over it. But it’s not entirely true. There are really good days and then something will remind me of him and I lose it again. Thanks for posting, your posts make me feel like what I’m still going through is normal and ok.

  3. notabowlofcherries says:

    I completly get it. I was same way and it still comes in waves. Hang in there:)

    • J. says:

      Its like trying to shift a brick wall an inch without tearing it down. I want so badly to have normalcy but the grief just gets in the way.

      • notabowlofcherries says:

        I can relate, I am three years out. Some days it is difficult but most are ok. I am still getting used to my new normalcy. I have learned to work through it day by day. Its always there but with time it gets easier to manage.

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